It hurts me when people talk negatively of bisexuals, the general orientation. You hear lesbians not wanting to get involved with them. You hear gay guys not wanting to get involved with them. The truth is, what could happen with a bisexual could have happened with a lesbian/gay guy too. It’s the type of person, not because they are bisexual. The person makes the decision, not their attraction to other people. Liking both doesn’t tempt you more than if you like one. If you are going to cheat, you will be tempted by who you like, simply liking the chase, or giving into urges, and act on it. It hurts me sometimes because as a bisexual, a lot of times things like this are said and I feel rejected. Because I know I am not this way. Because my girlfriend who is also bisexual is not this way. Because I know other bisexual men/women who are not this way. “Bisexual” is not a type of person, it’s an orientation. It does not make you more likely to cheat, nor does it make you more likely to run around and hurt your other one. And I am sorry if your experience with someone who is bisexual hurt you, I truly and sincerely am, but just because one fancies both sexes doesn’t mean they are more likely to burn you. Like I said, type of person is responsible, not orientation. “Bisexual” does not mean whore, nor does it mean “player”. It just feels like sometimes to me that the people who are lesbian or gay don’t recognize bisexuality for what it is. I don’t want to offend anyone, but this is my opinion. Sometimes I feel like people don’t understand bisexuality as well as they should. And I mean being really bisexual, not experimenting with your sexuality.
I’m gonna respond to this post. I have seen the negativity towards bisexuals. I think lesbians fear their partner leaving for a guy not only because they’re leaving them or cheating on them, but because it makes them feel like none of it was real, like the person never even liked girls and it was just a lie. However most don’t think about it enough to see that if they got cheated on for a boy a girl or whatever, it’s still the same pain and the same disrespect and break of trust. Another thing that has caught my eye is how the term Bisexual is being misused. Girls are going around all over the place saying that theyre bi just because they hooked up with a girl once and found it fun, or just to get attention. Or even many gay girls will come out as bisexual when they’re still unsure of their sexuality. All of that just ends up making people confused because they later find that the person isn’t bisexual and it makes people lose trust in those who claim to be bi. I myself find it hard to take seriously the girls in my school who say their bi because i know some people who have bullshitted before. I mean i hate how it’s become such a commonly misused word thats being thrown around so easily. I think people do need to see that not everyone is like that tho bc i have also met legit bisexuals who are serious and i saw how it affected them. I just thought i would rant further on that lol :)